The life of a writer is a solitary one – as shown by the fascinating series on here written by Ian Philips. We have our own particular garrets - noisy, quiet, at tables or desks, or scrunched up under the stairs or perched on the end of the bed.
All this leads on to a chicken and egg type question. Are you a writer because you are naturally a loner – or are you becoming a loner because of your writing? And is it healthy?
The good news - or maybe the not so good news – is that there are more ways than ever to connect with your fellow writers. You can join a local writing group for face-to-face contact and support, join groups online, comment on others’ work (such as on here) and go to workshops, seminars and conferences.
So because you can – should you? Sometimes yes – sometimes no. It’s important to meet others in the writing tribe because you can bounce ideas of each other, share the same traumas, and generally feel like you’re not alone. And it stops what sometimes happens to me – where your vocal chords seize up, and you realise you’ve been in your pyjamas for three straight days…
In all my years of meeting authors, going to events, and joining up online to communities – I’ve never seen an idea stolen - so don’t let that stop you from joining in.
And why not? Well I can get to the end of a day and it dawns on me that I’ve spent all of it online, chatting to others on twitter (@BookAnalyst if you want to join me there!), looking at blogs, commenting on ideas, and got nothing done.
As with all, moderation is key. But on a social note – who’s coming to the Conference on Saturday 18th February? I’m looking forward to meeting some of you there! And don’t forget the forthcoming Masterclass on Submission – a chance to really hone your submission skills and get some one-to-one attention on your writing project.
Let me know – how do you strike the balance between Cave and Rave? It’s another important talent to learn as when you’re a famous author, you’ll have to juggle your public and your muse.

Jean Barnett on February 13, 2012
Only another writer could understand that very special excitment you feel as you develop another part to your story. My writing is very important to me but I think I have managed to control the writing rather than it control me. I suppose this is easy when you fit your writing into a slot in work called lunchtime. For the last five or more years I have discipined myself to have one hour and one hour only per day to write. So because of this, so far, my writing has not become an unhealthy aspect of my life.
In some respects I feel as though I have lost out somehow, not experiencing the ability to lose all sense of time when writing, as in your 'three straight days in pyjamas.' Not to say I haven't come close to this a few times. Just reaching an elusive sentence, or beginning a new chapter with thoughts flowing, and realising I've had an hour and a half and feeling very guilty.
But I do understand why some writers can often do the 'pyjama thing' and I've been out and bought a new pair and cannot wait to try them out. I think I have learned to juggle well over the years and I'm sure despite my sometimes hectic lifestyle, I could fit in a few more hours of putting pen to paper, I must!.
Gayle Bentham on February 13, 2012
Hi Cressida, I've just starting following you on Twitter at @BookAnalyst. Have checked out The Book Analyst website too and I see you live near me! I used to live in Over and now work in Dry Drayton - maybe I'll have to come to one of your writing workshops! :)
Cressida Downing on February 13, 2012
Gayle that would be wonderful! I'll make sure you hear the details of the next one.
Jean - I have a penchant for pajamas - from practical to less so...
Christina Howland on February 14, 2012
Hi Cressida,
1I love this blog as I can relate so much to what you have said.I am glad I'm not the only one writig in my pyjamas. As to three straight days I haven't made it that far yet.
I like to both cave and rave. Dipping my toe into being able to sit (in front of the television admittedly) and write; losing myself in what I'm doing pretty quickly which is great when I have time on my hands but when I still have the breakfast and Lunch box to make up for the next day at work and a shower still to get before going to bed it can be a bit of a problem. Then when I come onto sites like this one and seeing that there are others who are having similar writing problems and giving advice to help others get through is just brilliant fun.
Rushdi Lewke Bandara on February 14, 2012
HI Ms. Cressida,
4I miss those classes & conferences.. As i am far away from UK, i won't be able to participate. But i hope one day i can attend one of them.
When it comes to writing, my writing skills are deteriorated compared with school days. Those days i could write hours .. I think reason i have given prority for the job. I an counting my days when i can quit my job & become fulltime writer . BUt it will take some time.
I have written some fictions & thinking whether it is the correct time to publish.. Just feeling shy to publish it ..