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It's hard to imagine anything that could be more soul-destroyingly painful and embarrassing than being a teenager asking another teenager out - particularly when it's going to end in guaranteed rejection.
As a writer though, you may be getting flashbacks to those school days as you get ready to send your lovingly worked manuscript out into the cruel hard world.
Every author needs to think about the possibility of a rejection. There's no denying it. How you choose to react to these rejections is up to you, but I've come up with a few suggestions.
1. Artistic - paper your study with rejections slips. Turn something horrible into something beautiful.
2. Join the club - there are some famous names who have had horrible rejections - this little book compiles some of them - so you can be in good company.
3. Pre-empt your rejections. Try the Automatic Rejection Generator. It allows you to choose your own rejection, from the bland to the blustering.
4. Decide all those idiots out there are missing the point of your writing, and publish yourself. Self-publishing is a very real option these days, and how wonderful to be able to send a sales statement to a dismissive agent years later, showing them how wrong they were.
5. Kick the cat. Please note - I am not recommending any actual cat-kicking - but have a strop, cry, shout at something blameless, and generally release those feelings of disappointment.
But seriously - how can you move forward from a rejection? Take heart, it's not an ultimate judgement - just a snapshot in time about that particular manuscript.
If you've had anything other than a standard rejection, any scribbled notes or 'near miss' comments - view those as gold-dust. For an agent or editor to take time to make a few points, your manuscript has had something that's given them pause, and that's something you can build on.
On the other hand if you're getting rejection after rejection, maybe it's time to get some professional unbiased feedback. Writers' & Artists' offer a range of editorial services, and there are other editorial consultancies out there. A report that points out elements that need work and areas of strength can be an invaluable roadmap to take you further into your writing journey.
What do you do when you get rejections? Or has the fear of rejection stopped you sending your writing out? Let us know.