In a community of writers, I take it someone has gone through a divorce before. I have unfortunately been going through one these last months and it's just wearing me down. What's worse is that my wife was apparently my muse. I haven't been able to put one word down since she packed her bags one chilly afternoon and disappeared from my life... really, it's funny how someone who doesn't support your dreams can inspire them.
How do I move on, pick myself up and dust myself off? How do I find a new muse? I'm in a black pit here and I don't see a way out. It's frightening
Thank you. Both of you :-)
Hello
I sympathise with you, Mr M K Rasmussen, having being down that long and fraught road myself. There is no simple answer and no easy way out. They say divorce is up there alongside bereavement. I guess knowing it’s a well travelled road may help, but only you can choose your particular route.
I agree with Damien. Just write about how you feel, where you stand. That's what I did and eventually you'll get to a better place.
I wrote pages and pages of rants, sometimes I would just write pages of 'I hate life,' over and over like a mad person, I guess I had gone a bit crazy. A few years ago I found my wild scribblings (4 years worth) and threw them all away, terrified my children would find them. I regret it now, probably lost some useful real life musings.
And I'm still writing, more than 3 words!
There is light at the end of the tunnel, you will get there, I promise.
Hi M.K,
I can sympathise with you as my separation took place two years ago Boxing Day. I unlike you went the opposite way and threw myself into writing.
They say what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger and unfortunately there is no remedy to fix your pain or loss. I always thought its a bit of a Cliche to say time is a great healer but unfortunately it's true.
If you really have a true passion for writing don't worry it will come back. Maybe step outside the box and look around you see what you still have rather than what you have lost.
They say talk is cheap so write instead. Put down in words how you feel, what you have lost then look at what you still have. Once you have done that put it in a box and send it on a Slow boat to China.
Take care and keep smiling
Damien